Here’s a short video to share how I think about behavioral challenges, and how expectation gaps can be a contributing factor to seemingly out-of-control behaviors. Often, we focus too much on behavior and forget that behavior is communication. There can be many contributing factors to big emotions, so when we become curious and open to learning more about our child’s struggles, and as we chase the “why,” we can be better equipped to respond in more patient and loving ways. Over time, by keeping this in mind, we can offer safety and regulation through relationship, supporting our children’s long-term skill- and capacity-building. Thanks for watching, and let me know in the comments what your favorite takeaway is. (As I mention in the video, mine is a quote from Dr. Ross Greene: “Kids do well if they can”!)