In this podcast, I speak with Dave Stachowiak of the Coaching for Leaders podcast about my book (co-authored with Daniel Siegel), No Drama Discipline. Together we cover the below key points:

  • Much of what we do in the name of discipline is counter-productive.

  • The original meaning of the word “discipline” is to teach.

  • To effectively discipline (to teach kids skills to do better in the future), children have to be in a state of mind in which they can learn.

  • Consequences can be counter-productive.

  • If you’re being an effective disciplinarian, you should be disciplining less over time.

  • “Time-outs” don’t teach kids anything, but taking the time to step away from the situation to talk to your kids does teach.